Comments on: Romania is so NOT gay

By: R J Johnson

R J Johnson — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 23:40:37 +0000

i will be making my first trip out to bucarest [first time in europe] & im looking forward to it very much. im visiting another gay friend of mine who lives out in the countryside & is totally closeted. we want to got to some fun gay friendly places in the big city there. if anyone can recommend any places there, please let me know. i appreciate it very much! onekoolkatinnorcal@yahoo.com

By: VERYVERYdisappointed

VERYVERYdisappointed — Fri, 04 Apr 2008 08:42:41 +0000

I have recently met an amazing carpathian. I can’t tell if he’s gay though. I gave him my number and he put it up on the wall at work, he’s smiles and looks me in the eyes when we talk. American body language would suggest his mannerisms and such as flirty but im not sure what Romanian culture would see it as. He’s a computer programmer and im just a janitor, so im probably just blowin myself up but any help with how gay Romanians act or even how to ask in Romanian if someone likes guys atall. any help…..REALLY! lol. tommy_the_texan@yahoo.com

By: Roy

Roy — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 01:16:32 +0000

I’m a Filipino living here in the US. I had a nice young VGL Romanian tutor in Math. I was fascinated with this guy simply because he was the first Romanian I met. For most gay Filipinos my age, the Romanian we knew was Nadia Comaneci.
Then I worked with a Romanian young lady.
I came to the conclusion that Romanians are serious people. They are genetically built that way–to be contemplative and to stay away from what they perceive us deviations. The few militant Romanian gays who push for equal marriage should take a closer look at their culture, their identity as a nation. If homosexual visibility is almost zero in Romania, how on earth can they demand for marriage?
Don’t get me wrong–I am homosexual too ( and a proud one that’s why I don’t use the euphemism “gay”). For all it’s worth, Romania and the Philippiness are countries with extreme attitude towards gays. The presence of gays in the Philippines is everywhere. Gay jokes/ or jargons seep into the mainstream. There is no need to go underground for gays because they are just free what to do. Catholics? No problem! Go to the church and you’ll see religious homosexuals there. In the Philippines, you can cruise everywhere. even in the church for that matter.

By: David Stefanescu

David Stefanescu — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 05:49:55 +0000

My blood is 100% Romanian. I can completely understand where Romania is at and why it is so backwards. Romania has stinking thinking or in other words a bad attitude. Romania will never go anywhere when it is focused on the negative so much. As a human, especially a European, you should welcome diversity. You have to look at the positive things in life. Gays are really no ones business. I mean, what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. Who cares if your gay? Gay doesn’t mean someone is the devil. And as far as the Orthodox Church… I have lived in a Orthodox monastery, studies the Church for years. The Church, as it knows, has no business in politics. The Church’s business is spirituality, not politics. If your a Orthodox Christian beating someone or chanting your hate at someone… where is your heart (in the gutter).

By: Where are all the gay romanians? « Subversive Writer

Where are all the gay romanians? « Subversive Writer — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 02:15:28 +0000

[...] http://www.owlspotting.com/2006/06/06/romania-is-so-not-gay/ - This is a cool article that I just stumbled onto while I was looking for a romanian gay presence on the web. I encourage you to read it. But one of the best parts of it is this quote: Romanians will deny they have an aversion to gays. They will go even further and deny any form of intolerance. They might even tell you the idea that Romanians can be intolerant is part of a Western smear campaign against our country. Romanians don’t hate gays. Nor do they hate gypsies, Hungarians or blacks. They just don’t believe any of these groups are really necessary for the country to function. After all, if God intended for the Romanian people to be Hungarian black gypsies attracted to people of the same sex, he would have passed on that memo to the Orthodox Church leadership. [...]

By: ana bălănescu

ana bălănescu — Sat, 22 Dec 2007 13:15:30 +0000

Purple

Aseară am avut parte de o experienţă unică. Pentru prima oară în cadrul existenţei mele tradiţionaliste, conturată în cea mai mare parte de mama - fiinţă blândă cu puternice convingeri religioase - am ajuns să mă confrunt cu o situaţie nouă.
Clubul despre care vorbesc se numeşte „ Purple”. Chiar este decorat în purpuriu. Dar fără să vreau ocolesc subiectul care mă frământă in mod straniu de cand m-am trezit… Este un loc intim, foarte special; şi într-un loc atât de aparte, se întâlnesc oameni, deosebiţi aş putea spune. Ok… Am fost intr-un club de gay. Purple este un loc în care discrimnările nu există, graniţele impuse de anumite mentalităţi sunt dizolvate în atmosfera familiară, peisaj din care eu, femeia, am fost de mult exclusă, dar fără intenţie ofensatoare din partea tinerilor majoritari.
Totul a decurs într-o manieră aparte. Mă simţeam ca un intrus, un peştişor auriu, într-o mare de „căluşei de mare”. Tinerii gay au un fel de a fi foarte pozitiv. Sunt un fel de baterii de rezervă pentru noi femeile, care de când intrăm timid in această lume pământeană, suntem condamnate de soartă, a fi depresive. Ei bine, bărbaţii gay se nasc barbaţi cu o latură feminină. Ei trăiesc practic viaţa ideală a unei femei. Nu menstruaţie, nu probleme legate de aşteptarea menstruţiei, exclusivitate… dar în România, există foarte multe şanse să fie hărţuiţi pe stradă de persoane mai puţin încântate de ideea democratică în alegerea orientării sexuale.
Seara mea specială in Purple, s-a încheiat cu două martini si un prieten nou, pe nume Vlad. Tot ce am aflat de la el este că prietena cu care eram, pare să fie sufletul meu pereche si că nu îmi stă prea bine lângă bărbaţi… Eh, poate că odată cu homosexualitatea unui individ, se pierde noţiunea de „ normalitate”. Dar până la urmă, normal presupune alinierea la standardele impuse de societatea în care trăim?
„ Being gay is so NOT gay” - Este ceea ce alegem să fim, o stare de spirit care ne face să ne simţim noi…

Ana Bălănescu

By: cristi

cristi — Fri, 14 Dec 2007 13:00:41 +0000

you forgot to put gipsys in your list, USA have those please as well cause we don’t need em:D. Other than that, much love..

By: BWP

BWP — Wed, 27 Jun 2007 04:25:08 +0000

If you like gays so much ,you can have them all.ROMANIA doesn`t need those animals anyway.maybe you`re interested in some pedos,zoophiliacs,gerontophiliacs,rapists,hungarians and necrophiliacs,have a big acceptance parade and live happily ever after in that wonderful scum-farm that is the US.

By: Anton

Anton — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 01:46:06 +0000

Christian, I am admiring very much your blog and I can find many similarities between our lives.
I was born in Cluj and I realized that I am gay when I was 6; obviously I did not know the word for it. Then at 17 I have realized that “this” is “bad”, I decided to kill myself and I tried it, unsuccessfully. Nevertheless it’s hard to understand how come when being so depressed and thinking about suicide, I have still found the energy to befriend boys, selecting almost only those with a Romanian-Hungarian ancestry! (I was Romanian-only). I still remember how happy I was when I kissed Jeno - now I can say even his real name, for it has happened many years ago: Pop Eugen, who used to study in the Hungarian section of the High-school. I did that because I feared very much about being reported to my parents by my Romanian classmates, I remember that quite well.

Now, after so many years, including 16 of them spent in NY and California, my goal is to try to do something about this situation, and I have already made some progress. While I live in California, I have influenced many young Romanian lives via the internet, and I intervened in the most vicious cases, by exposing my name, position (as a scientist) and by fighting directly against homophobia with arguments.

I will return soon to Romania and I will continue this fight, but there is a real issue that I am not able yet to solve: the continuous interference of the American Religious Far-Right in both Romania and Moldova. Local morons are very encouraged when being helped by idiotic fundamentalists from the USA that are contributing to lots of internet sites, all horrendously anti-gay, like the “Brewer” family in Moldova. (”emigrants with a precise task and purpose to Moldova or Romania”).

I do not know how to adress that, because they are creating over there a myth of being highly respected Christians in America. How can I unmask their background, when I have never heard of them? It is very hard. They might have some positions in the sects and cults here, but I have no access to that.

Nevertheless, by exposing who I am on different sites (like on Curaj.net and others) I was successful in changing some things: now other people also dare to assume their sexual orientation. Yet the same problem appears everywhere: mostly the Erik Brewer couple (extremely active) and other neoprotestants are mudding the waters by impregnating the sites with sick intolerance (see the “combate_imoralitatea ” md site: it is really disgusting!).

If anybody has some idea on how to find who these “oreilly” morons working in “missions” abroad, in the most vulnerable places from Europe in terms of huma rights, please help me with information. Other ideas would be also appreciated!
anybody can write me at sangogio@yahoo.com).
Thanks.

By: Luana

Luana — Wed, 06 Dec 2006 13:15:09 +0000

Thank GOD Romania is so NOT gay!